保护资源很重要哦——土狗花花

Tummy time training for Muddog Jr. often ended unfruitful. He would either fall asleep on his stomach or start to lick the sheet beneath him. After receiving some sweet encouragement from us, or getting out of patience for the practice, he would finally make some visible efforts, like scratching the sheet a couple of times. And that’s all.

Now that he is two months old, he started to show more resemblance to his father such as long eye lashes, which Muddog is very very happy about.

10 November

熊掌和熊掌

终于开始了不能免俗的考虑：职场打拼与照顾孩子，优先考虑哪一个？缘起于昨天有朋友来，那位香港大型上市公司的高级法务经理说起她的两个孩子，都是满月以后她就基本上撒手不管了。现在大女儿已经上中学，她仍旧一年有半年时间都是在到处飞来飞去地出差。

在为人母之前，总觉得车到山前必有路，想怎么安排就怎么安排。嗬嗬，但现在看来最好还是不要心存幻想。自问出身平凡、背景普通，要想在职场上一步步地前进，辛勤劳动是必要条件；何况天生贱命，不工作就觉得难受，而看到努力工作产生的成果，就乐颠儿乐颠儿，满心欢喜地继续劳动下去。但看着孩子一天天长大，慢慢地会看你的眼睛、微笑时偶尔发出几个不连贯的声音、吃完奶后悠悠地叹气，觉得跟他在一起的每分钟都是那么快乐；想到休完产假后要把他交给别人照顾、哪怕是每天就那么几小时不在身边，都觉得舍不得、放不下。

想起以前一段对话，一个中国人对一个美国人说，我的母亲很伟大，为了紧张的工作需要，她只好请别人把我们几个带大。那个美国人说，我的母亲才很伟大，为了照顾我们几个，她放弃了心爱的事业，一直在家带孩子。

1 November

One Month Old

Finally, Muddog Jr. is one month old, and I put up a happy look of him as my image. Still we would like to share the look of his muscle on his leg, which surprise us more than any other part of his body. Hmm, this will be the evidence of his growth over the past month.

Hehe, ok, here comes the larger size of his face ...

27 October

计划生育与女权

盖自己没养孩子之前，对别人描述养孩子的酸甜苦辣，总是觉得很抽象。曾无数次听说孩子出生以后会苦不堪言、恨不得把他塞回到肚子里去（在他深夜大哭扰眠的时候，土狗威胁要把他送到医院，去换一个文文静静的小女孩回来）；也曾无数次地从文学作品上看到新生命会给自己的生活带来怎样的升华、增添多少乐趣。终于轮到自己来体验了，人生完整了。

小家伙讨人喜欢的样子，使我迅速忘了怀孕与生产时候的不适，甚至强烈地希望再多生几个孩子。后来想了想，大概女人喜欢生孩子是与生俱来的本能。相比于其他动物的繁衍（一次几个、几十个、几百个地生育后代），人类如果不是天生就有强烈的繁衍后代的欲望，作为一个物种，大概是无法延续太久的。估计能限制人类繁衍的，也就是地球上资源的极限了（除非能成功攻打外星球、抢点资源）。

有了孩子，就回过头来在看计划生育政策，觉得这个政策对促进女性发展有相当明显的积极效应。与计划生育政策相配套的理论之一，就是生男生女都一样。当年的“妇女能顶半边天”从经济上使女性得到独立，这个理论则是从精神和文化上明确了男女平等。独生女的大量出现，使女性在青少年时期得到了强烈关注。独生女开始承载家庭的希望，并不断得到鼓励：她们与男同学一样富有才智和能力，她们应该勤奋、求上进、为实现自我价值而不断努力。男尊女卑的思想，在独生女的成长过程中不断被她的家庭淡化。对女权的健康发展（而不是物极必反型的发展）而言，计划生育政策实在是很有功劳。

14 October

Arrival of Muddog Jr.

I felt my tears, trickling down into my hair, when I heard his first cries. Those were the sweetest and the most touching sounds I ever heard. Sorry that Muddog was not allowed in the operation room and could not share that moment with us. I was given a careful look at the creature before he was taken away for further observation. What a beautiful baby, I said to myself (maybe every new mother would think alike), and finally we are Mum and Dad!

Interesting enough, I was deeply impressed by the doctors and nurses during those few days. I had never been in such bad need of medical service before, and this experience made me whole-heartedly agree that medical staff are angels.

24 September

快点出来！

相比于小土狗在娘胎里的怡然自得，我却开始不耐烦了！原先还怕他早产，现在却每天都想：今天他会出来吗？结果是每天他都自得其乐；每次检查都是一切正常。日复一日、周复一周，跟早产已经沾不上边了……

医生终于挑了个日子，满41周后小家伙要是还不出来，就催产。如果催产还不出来，就剖腹。哎，一想到剖腹产的可能性，就忍不住哀叹，这么久以来认真安排饮食、睡眠、活动的功夫岂不是都要白费了！

已经当爹当妈的人来支个招：吃什么能把小崽子尽快骗出来？

8 September

Medical terms

There were moments when Muddog Jr. was quiet (i.e. making no movements), I would forget that I have been pregnant and the kid is expected to arrive soon. I would bathe as before, humming along, get in and out of the tub without difficulty, and dry myself without noticing the big belly (how?), until I suddenly see it in the mirror. Ah, yes! I should have been more careful when taking any action …

I was so happy in the first two days of my maternal leave, but soon out stayed the joy of being free from work. I never enjoyed working for over ten hours a day, but having nothing to do would also bore me. So I happily took up the task to translate some medical cases for a friend, studying the medical terms and learn the procedures in operations …

8 August

可怜天下父母心

前一次检查，医生随口嘟囔了一句：“What a big head!”后来就问土狗，他小时候是不是也是脑袋特别大。果然，土狗幼时还曾因为头部过大而经常失衡，摔倒时并不是撞疼鼻子而是撞破额头。听了觉得十分好玩，就告诉爸妈，肚子里的小土狗也将端着个硕大的脑袋来到人间。

谁知老爹听说后，就一直非常担心，几次三番在电话里嘱咐到时候一定要用最稳妥的方案。十分的风险程度中，顶多可冒一分风险，万万不可冒两分。只要有两分风险，就选择动刀，孩子头部大，万万不可鲁莽。嗬嗬，当年妈妈去医院分娩，他好像也没有这么紧张；如今到了他女儿要生孩子，他却早早地紧张起来了。看来有了孩子，真是一辈子的操心！

大热天的，精神头越来越差，婆婆把在东北避暑的安排减半，来到这又热又潮的地方帮我做饭做家务，于是我又过上了饭来张口、衣来伸手的日子。老人家最怕热，现在最担心的却是我会不会热着、冻着、累着、饿着。哎，有了儿女，操心真是无止境……

31 July

Another month to go before taking the leave

I knew there would be much work to do, but I did not expect it to be so much. Sometimes I am just surprised that how people would throw so much work to a pregnant woman, especially when they knew that she could not further assign the work to others. Anyway, those dark days are getting to the end, as the new Legal Manager for the company, who is very willing to take over the heavy work load, has reported to duty. And I really cannot wait to finish the secondment and get back to the law firm.

But before the sunrise, there comes the darkest moment. With the compliance audit going on in this reasonably large company, I start to have another round of sleep deprivation. Fortunately, Muddog gives me much support, taking care of food, laundry, throwing away garbage, and mostly importantly, furnishing of our new home. And Muddog Jr. gives me hilarious time by making his presence known every few moments. There is really nothing to complain on the family side. Time to count down. In another month, I will be having a free time from work. Hahahaha.

12 June

合法工作

记得一次知识产权法律的研讨会上，微软的法务总管在那里发言，说是为了保证在西雅图的1万5千名外籍员工能在美国合法工作、保证他们2万5千名外籍家属能在美国合法居留，就已经令他精疲力竭，再加上微软浩如烟海的专利和版权管理，更是觉得不堪重负。当时听了，觉得一个堂堂总管在研讨会上大叹苦经非常有趣，而自己身在律所，对公司里的繁杂事务也难以感同身受。

如今被借调到公司做了两个月的法务，脑子里就开始回旋起当年那可怜的总管的话。光是为了保证港人和外国人在公司的合法就业、使他们的人民币收入能顺利地转换为港币和外币以便他们在香港和国外的支配、维持他们的报税手续完整合法，就已经焦头烂额。再加上公司主营业务和日常运作中大量的法务工作，更是觉得让一个“one man office”来做，实在是分身乏术。不久前终于给配了一个助理，稍稍喘了口气，忙里偷闲地去做产检。

因为这个城市在北回归线以南，夏至前后那几天，正午的太阳应该是在北边，影子会朝着南边。回头一定要亲自勘查一下。

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